When you finish a course or meditation retreat, you find yourself with a great challenge, to give continuity to your meditation practice. During the retreat you had a schedule with a routine and group discipline, you did not have many distractions, there was no Internet, nor did you have to worry about making your food, work and other things. Everything was organized. But when you come out, you get involved with many activities, people, commitments, and very soon you find yourself distracted and not finding time for your meditation. As William James said, what you attend to becomes your reality. So, very soon your reality is different, your past habits return, they pull you back into putting the urgent tasks, your work, social commitments, housework, etc., before your meditation.
This is when you have to remind yourself every day what your priorities are, and this is easier if you dedicate 5 minutes in the morning to reflect on what is significant for your life, and how you can be of greater benefit in the world.
In order to cultivate discipline it is good to set times to do your meditation sessions every day at the same times. When you wake up as I mentioned, it is good to do a mediation session to help you start the day focused and with good motivation. After lunch make another session and before sleeping another.
They can last 15, 30 or 60 minutes. Ideally you want to progress until you can meditate one hour in the morning, one at noon and one at evening. Three hours of meditation a day have a great effect on your mind and you can progress in the practice of shamatha.
Do not worry if you feel you do not have time, if you dedicate 5 minutes, 3 times a day you will begin to feel better and little by little you will find the time to increase your sessions.
During these sessions, it is important that you see them not as a job, but as moments where you can completely relax from all your stress and worries, where you can enjoy the joy that comes from being in the present. This will not only make you feel good, but it will make you want to meditate more. Remember that meditation is not only to release stress, what we are cultivating is a balanced mind, which can be relaxed while developing a lot of concentration, attention, vividness, mindfulness and wisdom.
It is also important to try to be aware during the day of all our actions of body, speech and mind. This is where we apply the practice of mindfulness with discernment, choosing to act in an ethical way, restraining our impulses to offend, criticize, judge, etc. and instead practice patience, generosity, loving kindness, compassion and equanimity.
A practice we can do while interacting with people at work or on the street, is that of Tong Len (taking and giving) where with each inhalation we wish all beings (animals included) to be free of their suffering and with each exhalation we wish them to find genuine and lasting peace and happiness. When you do this practice with people you dislike, wish them to be free of their anger, pride, ignorance, envy, etc., and to develop wisdom, compassion, kindness, patience, and all the virtues you would like them to have. In this way, instead of creating negative karma, you are cultivating a loving and equanimous mind, which includes both friends, strangers and enemies.
Remember, every moment of your day can be transformed into a mental training practice.
I hope these tips help you practice meditation, if you have questions or comments leave them below.
This year I did my second Kopan course, it seems incredible that the first one was 13 years ago! It was like coming back home, I had so many memories of the 4 months I spent in retreat here.
Kopan is a beautiful Tibetan monastery built on a hill in Nepal, which offers a month-long course every November for Westerners, where the Lam Rim (the gradual path) is studied, a text that teaches step by step the stages on the path to enlightenment.
On this occasion I also did volunteering work as a simultaneous translator into Spanish and leader of the Spanish-speaking discussion group. Which required a lot of effort and concentration but it made me feel very happy to be able to help other beings understand the teachings.
This time I had the fortune to enjoy a single room with private bathroom and hot water, unlike my first course where I had to live in a quadruple bedroom with shared bathrooms and cold shower. This gave me the opportunity to have the necessary space to rest after each intense day of work, study and practice. In addition to being able to do my personal meditation practices very early or in the middle of the night.
The schedule was very intense, starting at 5:30 am with a meditation of purification.
At 6 we had tea in silence, watching the sunrise in the middle of a spectacular landscape, with the mountains and the view of the monastery of another of my teachers, Ayang Rinpoche, which is on the hill in front of Kopan and has a beautiful design that gives you that feeling of being in a mystical land of the East.
At 6:30 we had an hour of shamatha meditation, this session sometimes I rathered do it in my room, since this is a practice that I have done for years and I prefer to do it without a guide.
At 7:30 they served breakfast, usually rice porridge, white bread with peanut butter and jam. This meal was not really healthy, so I preferred to have breakfast in my room, one of the many apples I bought before starting the retreat, a couple of dried figs and a couple of almonds.
From 9-11: 30 we had teachings with Ven. Alisa, an eloquent Australian nun, whom I translated simultaneously into Spanish through a microphone while the Spanish speakers who needed translation listened on a radio frequency. This was a wonderful experience since I could not escape a word and therefore I learned a lot, topics that I had already studied but this time I could understand them a little more deeply. In addition, the challenge of improving my skills as a translator and being of benefit to other people motivated me to give my best.
After lunch we still had silence. After this, we could talk.
At 2 pm we met in a terrace or garden with our discussion group, as group leader I received a daily paper with three questions to generate and coordinate the discussion in our groups. My group had people from Peru, Colombia, Argentina, Spain and of course the Mexicans, couldn’t be missing. For me it was an interesting experience to motivate the discussion, to give space for everyone to have an opportunity to speak and help clarifying a topic when it was difficult for them. All beautiful people who contributed a lot of their own inner wisdom to the group. We laughed, we learned, we comforted and supported each other for a month, and in the end we were family. I miss them!
From 3:30 to 5 p.m. there was another session of teaching and translation, the most difficult part was translating the parts in which the instructor read a book, since they were fast and sometimes there were words in a somewhat poetic English. Class themes were sometimes very difficult for students to assimilate, particularly those related to karma, rebirth and the sufferings of samsara (cyclic and conditioned existence).
Then we would do an analytical meditation on the subject of the teachings.
Many of these meditations are difficult because you have to reflect on a topic and many times we are just thinking instead of meditating. In my next guided meditations I want to touch some of these topics in some way that I can guide my students step by step until they can connect with a recognition of a certain subject in a more experiential way.
In the afternoon tea and during dinner, people socialized and took advantage of the little time to meet more people. The group initially had about 240 people, 10% left for various reasons. But still it was a large group.
At evening on the last session we did the purification practice of Vajrasattva, which at the same time was a small introduction to the tantric practices of Tibetan Buddhism.
When we came to the subject of Shamatha practice, which means development of single-pointed attention, or calm-abiding. Ven. Alisa asked me to give a talk to the group on this topic telling them about my experience in retreat and giving them practical advice. Many people told me that it helped them a lot and later some people asked me questions about their practice, I was glad to be able to support them and advise them about their plans for retreat.
At the end of the course, Lama Zopa Rinpoche arrived and gave us teachings on the themes of emptiness, the development of bodhicitta (the mind of awakening), etc. He was wonderful, his way of speaking and his personality reminded me of Yoda from Star Wars, a character that was actually based on Tibetan teachers. There is no doubt that Lama Zopa is a wise, loving and compassionate teacher.
The penultimate day we went as a group to visit the Stupas of Swayambu and Boudha. A Stupa is a monument that symbolizes the body, speech and mind of a Budha, so it is said that circumambulating these has much merit while reciting mantras or reflecting on a subject of the teachings.
At the end of the course, we had a great closing celebration with dances and Tibetan music, some members of the group also sang a funny adaptation of the song “Let It Be” by the Beatles. The monastery prepared a delicious meal that we enjoyed outdoors.
In the end the group was considerably reduced and we had one more week of silent retreat dedicated to meditating on each one of the topics seen during the course.
In general it was a very nice experience. I highly recommend you take this one-month course, if you have the interest to explore the tradition of Tibetan Buddhism in a traditional way in a monastery. But I don’t recommend it if you do not like rituals and are looking for a meditation retreat with a secular approach.
I also advise you to read a little about the Gelug lineage of Tibetan Buddhism before deciding on this retreat, since the approach is one of study and analytical reasoning.
If you have questions leave them in the comments below and I will gladly answer them.
Recently I taught a course on Shamatha meditation at Yamantaka FPMT center in Bogotá, Colombia. Shamatha means calm-abiding and attentional training through meditation. At the end of several weeks of teaching and practice, we had a meditation retreat to put all the things learned into practice.
Have you ever felt motivated to do a project that at the time seemed very significant, or get involved in a job or activity that would be of much benefit to others? But as you started to develop it, you started to face the obstacles that come with any type of business or project?. You realized that in order to do that, you had to fight tirelessly, to do things that were unpleasant and that required money and effort and that there was no guarantee of success, not even knowing if it would really benefit humanity.
You questioned whether your motivation behind this project was not in some way also dominated by some self-centered desire, to get recognition, or money, or some kind of personal benefit. You met people who opposed or discouraged you, telling you that it was not worth investing your time, or that it was not a good idea nor a useful project.
Little by little you felt more and more discouraged, less motivated, and finally decided that it was not worth putting more time and energy into that project. You finally quited. And you started to wonder what’s really worthwhile?
I have been there, and the only thing I have found worthwhile is to watch my mind closely, to see how thoughts arise that crystallize into motivations, motivations that produce emotions that feed the energy that leads to action. Be aware, what is your motivation behind each action?. And when you discover that it’s a self-centered motivation, ask yourself if it’s really worthwhile.
Reflecting on our actions, becoming aware of our motivations, emotions and thoughts, is what really is worth, only in this way we begin to know ourselves, to become better people, more attentive, kind, generous and patient, and when we are dedicated to this observation and transformation we can begin to act wisely, effortlessly and selflessly. Action happens in a natural way. And when there is no necessary action, the stillness of our body, whether in the sitting position or in the supine posture, allows us to continue to observe our mind, in the present, releasing the clinging to the past and to the future.
What is it really worthwhile for you?