Be aware of your emotions

When you feel rejected, assaulted, alone, depressed, angry; you are creating separation from the world, you disagree with it, you are judging it. The best thing to do is accept this moment and be fully aware of the emotion you’re experiencing, without rejecting it, but without feeding it with more thoughts, watching the thoughts that arise involuntarily and let them pass, stay present and rest on the awareness of being aware, of being alive, of being experiencing. Let your mind be as motionless sky and let your thoughts and emotions arise and pass like clouds. Do not fight, do not reject the experience, do not act. Stand still watching your mind, go for a walk alone and coordinate your steps with your breath while you attend to emotions and sensations in your body.

Do not analyze the triggers of your emotion until it has diminished or gone altogether.

Recipe for your daily training

To help you design a daily practice you can follow this guide.

A formal training session:

Motivation. Start by defining our intention to train our mind.
Divide your session into 3 parts:
1 practice for emotional balance: Compassion, Loving Kindness, Empathy or Equanimity.
1 practice for concentration
1 application of mindfulness
Resting the mind.
Dedication or aspiration

In daily life:

1 ethical practice. Volunteering, generosity, patience, etc.

4 immeasurables (Compassion, Loving Kindness, Empathy and Equanimity), choose the right one and direct it towards every person with whom you interact.

1 Application of mindfulness as we work and do our daily activities.

In the evening do another formal session and a recollection of your actions during the day.

Close with a positive aspiration for the next day.

How to cultivate Loving Kindness towards yourself

I’m happy to share with you this wonderful meditation:

 

Sit with your legs crossed. Generate the motivation to devote a few minutes to cultivate loving kindness toward yourself.

 

Take 3 deep breaths, releasing any tension or anxiety in your body and mind.

 

Let your breath in its natural rhythm, uncontrolled, only attending closely.

 

After 5 minutes of mindfulness of breathing, visualize that with each inhalation, from all directions in space you get rays of light bringing you all the welfare, health and happiness you want .

 

Visualize yourself also receiving material goods, talents and opportunities you’d like to have. And now also visualize that you transform your faults into qualities.

 

Transform yourself into the person you want to be and visualize how others perceive you in that way.

 

Now focus on the exhalation and with each send light rays from your body towards all beings without exception, sharing with them your qualities, talents, material goods and feelings of kindness , compassion, love , generosity, patience and wisdom. Do this for 10 to 15 minutes.

 

Now release all visualization and all thinking and let your conscience rest in its natural state for a few minutes.

 

Finish your session with the aspiration that you can transform your limitations into opportunities that you can benefit those beings around you.

 

Your Turn

 

How was your meditation? Do you have any question?

 

What is the proper posture?

 

The position that I recommend for working and meditating is to sit on a cushion of about 10-15 cm high, commonly called zafu, you can also use a yoga brick, on a cushioned mat about 1mt x 1mt commonly called zabuton, or you can also put a folded yoga mat under the cushion.

 

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Sitting Posture

Sitting cross-legged with each leg facing each other and resting on the ground. Hands on your thighs or left hand on top of the right hand with both palms up and the tips of the thumbs touching gently. Back straight, this is very important! and head aligned. The tip of the tongue behind the upper teeth. Eyes open and relaxed eyelids. This position helps you keep stability, upright but relaxed, so you can stay for long sitting in this way. If you feel sleepy or your mind is very fast you will notice it on your thumbs, in your eyes and in your spine. Try to correct your posture as soon as you notice that it is out of balance.

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The Place

Find a quiet room or a place where you have no distractions or noise. Sit preferably in front of a white wall, since the objects and designs stimulate the mind and distract us.

Your goal is that your body and mind are still, as relaxed as if asleep, but really awake and alert at a time.

When we spend hours on the computer, sitting in a chair this hurts our body, so it’s good if you can adopt the half-lotus posture just described, also for working.

If your knees hurt and you rather sit on a chair, it is important to keep your back very straight.

 

Other Postures

Another position for both work and to meditate is to stand with a very straight back and head in line. It’s good to switch between this position and the half-lotus posture.

Finally there is the savasana pose, which involves lying down on your back on a yoga mat with your arms resting at your sides. You can put a small pillow under your head if it helps you align your spine. This position is excellent for relaxation and meditation, but it is not good to work! You also run the risk of falling asleep, so it is good to use it only when you’re stressed or when you have tension in the body.

 

 

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What posture do you find most comfortable to meditate and work with? How long can you stay in that position without moving?

 

 

 

 

The 5 most important practices

There is nothing more beneficial than the following five practices:

Focused attention
The Four Applications of Mindfulness (body, feelings, mind and mental objects)
Four Immeasurable (compassion, loving kindness, sympathetic joy and equanimity)
Dream Yoga
The Great Perfection

These practices are a direct path to the realization of our deepest nature and potentials of consciousness. These meditations are essential for refining the attention, growing recollection, opening the heart, investigating the nature of the waking state and its relationship with our dreams, and finally investigate the nature of consciousness itself. Each takes you a step further on the path to enlightenment, but we need not believe in a specific creed to commit to them, and quickly you can see for yourself how these relieve the sufferings of our mind and will lead to a greater sense of wellness and satisfaction.

Practice

In each of these practices, we began the session by establishing a proper body posture, and cultivate three qualities: relaxation, stability, and clarity.

Relaxation

There are two positions that I recommend for this practice: sitting or lying down. Generally, the best and most widely recommended posture is sitting on a cushion with legs crossed. If this is too uncomfortable, you can sit in a chair with both feet resting on the floor. But another approach used, not as common, is lying on your back, arms outstretched at your sides, palms up, and your head resting on a pillow. This is especially useful if you have back problems or if you are physically tired or sick.

Any posture you adopt, let your body rest comfortable, with your spine erect but not rigid. Relax your shoulders, with your free arms loose at its sides. Soften your eyes. Let your face relax as much as that of a sleeping baby. After completing this initial relaxation process taking three deep slow breaths through the nostrils. As you inhale, breathe slowly and deeply to the bottom of your abdomen. As if filling a pot with water, fill your belly and expand slowly, then breathe into your diaphragm, and finally to the upper chest. After breathing let it completely free, without forcing it out. Do this three times keeping your attention in the body, especially noting the sensations of the entrance and exit of air. Following these deep breaths, breathing returns to normal, unregulated. Let this quality of physical relaxation be an outward expression of your mind: let your conscience be relaxed, releasing all your worries; simply to be present here and now.

As you inhale and exhale, turn your attention to the tactile sensations of breathing passage in the openings of the nostrils or upper lip. Take a moment to find the feeling. Rest your attention right where you feel the incoming and outgoing breath. Occasionally, check you’re still breathing into the abdomen. This will happen naturally if your body is seated with your back straight and relaxed and soft belly.

Stability

During each session of meditation allow your body to stay as still as possible, with minimal nervousness; remain motionless as a mountain. This helps to generate the same quality in mind: a quietness, where your attention is focused and continuous.

Clarity

If you’re lying, still allow your posture reflect a sense of vigilance, not only collapsing into numbness. If you are sitting, whether on a cushion or in a chair, lift your sternum slightly, keeping your belly soft and relaxed. In this way, you naturally breathe in your abdomen, and when breathing deepens, feel your diaphragm and your chest expand as well. Sit attentive without slouching forward or leaning to either side. This physical posture also strengthens the quality of mental alertness.

On this post we are going to explore the first of these 5 practices we talked at the beginning.

Mindfulness of Breathing

Keeping focused attention is vital to virtually everything we do during the day, including work, drive, interact with others, enjoy entertainment and leisure time, and engage in spiritual practice. Therefore, is important to learn to focus our attention. Whatever your normal level, whether you’re usually dispersed or concentrated, the quality of your attention can be improved, and this brings rewards. In this practice, we are taking our conceptually compulsive fragmented conscience, towards deeper simplicity, moving towards a form of witness or an observer. In addition to improving attention, this meditation will improve your health, purge your nervous system, will allow you to sleep better, and improve your emotional balance. This is a different way to apply our minds, and improve with practice. The specific method is to continue growing mindfulness of breathing.

Because of habit, thoughts are likely to arise. When they arise, just as you exhale release them without identifying with them, not responding emotionally to them. Observe the thought emerge, passing in front of you and then fade. Hold your mindfulness of breathing as continuously as possible. You can count your breaths if that’s helpful.

Close your practice session in a meaningful way, dedicate your effort. Something has been gathered in our hearts and minds to apply to ourselves to this constructive activity. After completing the meditation session, you might want to dwell for a minute or so, to dedicate the merit of your practice that can lead to the satisfaction of whatever you find most meaningful to you and others. With intention and attention, this benefit can be directed to wherever we want.

Adapted from the book: “Genuine Happiness” by my teacher Alan Wallace. Spanish translation by Alma and Yonam Ayon